You get what you give. Be the things you want to receive. Most of us pray for love, happiness and prosperity but continue to put out negative energy. You cannot continue to make bad choices intentionally and expect good in life. Be the positive outcomes you desire in all of your days and in all that you do. Be love, be someone’s peace and share prosperity with others. You get what you give.
Many who’ve met me in this season and see my successes tend to think I’m just lucky. No such thing. If only you knew the PAIN and trials I went through before receiving favor. If only you knew the many years I lived mad at the world, sorrowful and not trusting in Him. When I finally gave in and gave it ALL to Him my blessings poured in. Run your own race, trust in your own journey. If you get caught up comparing yourself to where others are in life you might miss your turn. Your current trial is only for a season. Let go and let God!
Jamaal and Brandy Boone met in the dormitory of Anderson Hall during their freshman year of college and have now been together 17 years! According to Brandy, Jamaal was standing in the lobby staring at her. He says he was doing no such thing but told her his name when she approached him nonetheless. Every time the two saw each other after that encounter she’d make sure to say, “Heyyy Jamaal!” Their mutual love of watching WWE led to them eventually falling in love. Over the years their palpable bond, genuine friendship and commitment to family set the strong foundation needed to withstand the usual ups and downs of marriage. For this couple, there is nothing better than family.
When did you know that you loved your spouse?
Brandy: “There is no specific time that I can pinpoint but what made me say for the rest of my life this is who I want to be with was the fact the we liked the same things and we did the same things. When we were around each other we always had fun just doing nothing together. We use to go play uno together, watch wrestling together, all that stuff. We had a lot in common so I was like, ‘Yep, I can be with him for the rest of my life.’”
Jamaal: “I don’t know the exact point but I know that I loved her wayyyyy sooner than she loved me. My thing was, I’m just not going to say nothing until I get something back. I was holding out. There was one time we were in the student union building watching wrestling and I knew then like, ‘Oh yea, I love her.’ We weren’t doing anything. Just chillin and watching wrestling.”
What is your favorite quality about your spouse?
Brandy: “I like the way that he is with his children. I think he’s a really, really great father. Seeing him spend time with them, joking around and stuff, makes me love him more.”
Jamaal: “Well this isn’t going to sound as profound as what she said but she has pretty damn good organizational skills! I love her domestic qualities. She’s clean and she cooks well and often so I don’t have to and I appreciate that.”
What has been the most challenging aspect of marriage?
Jamaal: “Probably adapting to each other’s personalities. Like the fact that you just can’t do everything the way that you like to do it just because it works for you.”
Brandy: “Communication or the lack there of. I think it’s always a challenge to say exactly what it is you’re feeling especially when what you’re feeling may cause an argument and you’re not wanting to argue. Things of that nature. That’s the most challenging part.”
How has your spouse changed you for the better?
Jamaal: “Mannnnnnn, where do I even start? Can I even say this….if it wasn’t for her I’d still be out in them streets. Ain’t no telling where I’d be. I may be dead. I can’t really even say just one or two things. I can say that she completely took me away from doing boyish things. It’s like a complete 180 turnaround because I go from one extreme to the next. But that’s just one part of how she’s changed me for the better. I can go on and on about that. Compared to the person I was when I met her I’m definitely a completely different person.”
Brandy: “I would say that he makes me look at myself more because before it was always, ‘YOU need to do this’ or ‘YOU need to do that’. I’ve learned to look at myself and see what it is that I need to do. I’ve been not as quick to anger. I’ve been trying to fix my attitude as I can sometimes have a really bad one. So I think he’s changed me in that way. I now look internally within myself to see what I can do to make things better rather than focus on what I feel somebody else might need to do. Not just in our relationship but in life period.”
What’s the best part about being married?
Jamaal: “The stability. I appreciate the routine. The love. There is nothing better than coming home to my family. Like nothing better. Putting things together for the kids as a family like the birthdays, the celebrations…it’s kind of us verses the world. Coming home is by far the best part of the day.
Brandy: “Having someone you can really talk to. I feel like I can talk to him about anything. Even though at times we may disagree I still feel like I can still come talk to him about anything. Also having someone you can just lay up under. I like laying up under him and when his feet aren’t on me at night I’m like where the hell is he at, lol. I guess I feel more safe because he’s around.”
The butterflies that inhabit my soul fluttered
joyously deep down in my center
Moments later they traveled through my womb
down to the souls of my feet
This journey began the instant your lips met mine…
I gasped for air that never escaped me
Closed my eyes to savor the feeling
Hoped silently that your lips wouldn’t depart
Yearned desperately for a deeper infiltration…
Your tongue grazed across my lips in search of an opening
I obliged happily and parted my lips slightly
The sweet taste of your tongue made my heart skip, pause…race
Rhythmically, I allowed mine to dance with yours…
I inhaled deeply in an attempt to take in your essence
Your hands reached to caress my face and my body simultaneously relaxed
Suddenly feeling safe while lost in your sensual embrace
I allowed my head to tilt back as your lips trailed my neck…
A pleasured grin painted my face and I exhaled
I soon returned the gesture and tasted the aroma of your neck, ear, lobe…
You moaned, I ached in anticipation of desired consumption
We pause, I rested my head like a missing puzzle piece within your shoulder…
Our breathes that were once deep and shallow now slowed in sync
For a moment in time we drowned in each other’s existence
Our eyes searched the other’s within the dim of the candle light
Smiles emerged, we then submerged as our souls kissed once more…
Reveries of an intense love…
One that will have our breathes dancing the moment
our lips part slightly to greet the other’s.
One that will have our tongues constantly seeking
the warmth of the other’s.
One that will send an unexplainable current
through our bodies the moment they become one..
Stand just inches away without a touch
Now let your lips graze gently over mine
Place your hand firmly on my neck and
Allow your thumb to guide my chin
Now press your body against mine
Deliberately making each move
even slower than the last…
Ensuring that my anticipation lasts & lasts
Nights likes these
When the sound of the wind
hums a lullaby against my windows
I find myself missing you
Nights like these
When the cold air sneaks under my blanket & cause my skin to rise
I find myself needing you
Nights like these
When my lips are lonely and
My own arms hold me
I find myself desiring you
Nights like these
When your side of the bed remains abandoned and you unseen
I find myself trying to seek you
Nights like these
I long to feel the warmth of
your skin against my own and
wrap my legs around your being
Nights like these…
Where are you?