Love Talks: Completely 


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Meet Donnie and Tanya. They’ve been married 3 years and have a beautiful baby girl together. Their love story is one for the books but not one of fairytales. It is one of two people finding a great thing in each other despite circumstances and deciding to hold on to each other for dear life when every aspect of their vows were tested in such a short period of time. I hope their love gives you hope, inspiration and the courage to hold on tight no matter the obstacles.

When did you know that you loved your spouse?

Tanya: “When he would go out of the way to get to me because he didn’t have transportation when we began dating. He made sure there was always a way to come see me.”

Donnie: “For me it was more instantaneous. I knew off the bat when we met for the first time. I just looked at her and knew I was good.”

What is your favorite quality about your spouse?

Tanya: “The fact that there is no seperation of roles in our relationship. He’s willing to cook, clean and take care of Aubrey yet he’s still very much a man.”

Donnie: “Her loving, the way she loves. The little things she does that shows she’s not only thinking of me as a person but us as a family.”

What has been the most challenging aspect of marriage?

Tanya: “Being able to bring two separate people together to create one household. We were both raised in two completely different environments and to be able to make that one and create our own home was difficult. In order to overcome that we just had to be open to communication but it is still challenging.”

Donnie: “I guess my answer would mirror hers. Having two completely different mindsets and having to understand that you have to think not just for yourself but come together collectively while at the same time accepting each other’s flaws and defects.”

How has your spouse changed you for the better?

Tanya: “I’m much more patient and not as quick to anger.”

Donnie: “I’d have to say the same thing. Sometimes I can be an irrational thinker and she gives me proper insight and teaches me how to be more cognitive.”

What is the best part about being married?
Tanya: “The best part is having a partner who will always have your back and love.”

Donnie: “The knowing that at the end of the day no matter your flaws, defects or inconsistencies that person will love you and will hold you down through every situation. Knowing that because it’s real it will last a lifetime and not just a moment. I wasn’t looking for someone to complete me, I was looking for someone to completely understand me and I found that in her.




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You’re unhappy more often than not. What are you holding on to? Flashes of false effort that only lends false hope? It’s not real. The way you feel is evident in your actions. The way he feels is evident in his lack of actions. How much longer are you going to let him use you? He doesn’t WANT you. May not even like you but seems to need you. Needs all that you give so freely. It’s been years and all he gives you are new reasons why he refuses to commit. Then tells you he loves you so you’d hold on just a little longer. Long enough for him to find who he truly wants.  Then tell you it’s your fault it didn’t work because you were too this or too that. Beautiful, you must activate your worth. It’s not enough to just know it.



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The butterflies that inhabit my soul fluttered
joyously deep down in my center
Moments later they traveled through my womb
down to the souls of my feet
This journey began the instant your lips met mine…

I gasped for air that never escaped me
Closed my eyes to savor the feeling
Hoped silently that your lips wouldn’t depart
Yearned desperately for a deeper infiltration…

Your tongue grazed across my lips in search of an opening
I obliged happily and parted my lips slightly
The sweet taste of your tongue made my heart skip, pause…race
Rhythmically, I allowed mine to dance with yours…

I inhaled deeply in an attempt to take in your essence
Your hands reached to caress my face and my body simultaneously relaxed
Suddenly feeling safe while lost in your sensual embrace
I allowed my head to tilt back as your lips trailed my neck…

A pleasured grin painted my face and I exhaled
I soon returned the gesture and tasted the aroma of your neck, ear, lobe…
You moaned, I ached in anticipation of desired consumption
We pause, I rested my head like a missing puzzle piece within your shoulder…

Our breathes that were once deep and shallow now slowed in sync
For a moment in time we drowned in each other’s existence
Our eyes searched the other’s within the dim of the candle light
Smiles emerged, we then submerged as our souls kissed once more…

Quotes For The Soul: One More Time


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“Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.” –Maya Angelou

I choose to be vulnerable in love, in like even and that always leaves my heart bruised. Broken once but bruised often. But even still, the nostalgia of the perfect moments in between is why I’ll forever allow my heart to love and live in a vulnerable space. I can’t and won’t apologize for who I am and I can’t make anyone see the beauty in such a scary, thrilling and risky approach. I can only continue “to trust love one more time and always one more time.”



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Nights likes these
When the sound of the wind
hums a lullaby against my windows
I find myself missing you

Nights like these
When the cold air sneaks under my blanket & cause my skin to rise
I find myself needing you

Nights like these
When my lips are lonely and
My own arms hold me
I find myself desiring you

Nights like these
When your side of the bed remains abandoned and you unseen
I find myself trying to seek you

Nights like these
I long to feel the warmth of
your skin against my own and
wrap my legs around your being

Nights like these…
Where are you?